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18 December 2009

Ten Things to do when you've Lost your Luster


Just like an heirloom strand of pearls, the special sparkle inside of you will become dull overtime if you leave it hidden instead of wearing it for all the world to see. Often you won't realize that you've even lost your luster, your glow, the force that makes you feel sparkly and happy until you've become so dull that it seems as if you will never return to your former glory. Other times, you'll lose your luster much more quickly, typically because the world has dumped a dustbin full of negative crap on you, leaving you feeling spiritually wilted, drained and dull.

In such situations you will probably feel like laying in bed all day and watching sob inducing movies like A Very Long Engagement whilst eating bonbons and drinking Sidecars. While this is a fabulous idea in other situations, in this particular case such wallowing will ultimately make you feel sulky and shabby. Instead I propose you consider one of the following suggestions:

  1. Expose yourself to some serious sunshine. Even if it is frigid outside, if the skies are clear take yourself on a bit of a walk outside. Sunshine is a natural spiritual rejuvenator.
  2. Make a date with your favorite girlfriends to do something that will allow you to chat while indulging yourself...think tapas, manicures or shooting pool.
  3. Give yourself an overhaul, including a bubble bath, body scrub, pluck, shave and face mask. Make sure to finish off the process with some silky moisturizer. Style your hair, even if you only plan to stay in for the night. Looking a bit nicer on the outside will make you feel better on the inside.
  4. Force yourself to work up a sweat for at least 45 minutes, I'm talking cardio. I know this is the oldest advice in the book, and frankly I have a hard time following it myself, but it often works.
  5. Do something fancy, like a night at the opera or ballet. Dress to impress, even if you just plan to go with your sister.
  6. Call an old friend on the telephone for a chat. Concentrate on talking about the good things that are going on in your life. Try to stay on the phone for at least thirty minutes, even if it means that you call multiple people.
  7. Undertake a challenging, engaging short term project, like making bread from scratch or re-painting your bathroom. Doing something productive that consumes your attention will re-charge your batteries and re-focus your attention.
  8. Unplug for the weekend, buy a few good books, turn off the TV, put your phone on silent and ignore all your email. You are unavailable, unattainable, fabulous.
  9. Take a day trip to a cute town or garden close by and take lots of artsy digital pictures. Sort through them at home and post the best ones on your facebook page or print them up for your wall at home.
  10. Make yourself a little afternoon tea around 3 pm, in a proper tea cup with milk and sugar. Buy a little fruit tart or milano cookies to have with your tea. Take your time and enjoy your treats before returning to the stress of everyday life.
Undertake any of the above activities while listening to the following soundtrack to enhance the experience:
Stripper, Soho Dolls
Superhero Girl, Eve 6
Rescue, Eve 6
The Girl's Attractive, Diamond Nights
The Cheap and Evil Girl, Bree Sharp
Extraordinary, Liz Phair
Barracuda, Heart
Beautiful Stranger, Madonna
I Touch Myself, Blondie
(Rock) Superstar, Cypress Hill
She Drives Me Crazy, Fine Young Cannibals
So What, Pink
Wicked Game, H.I.M. (cover)
A Girl Like You, Edwyn Collins
What Ever Lola Wants, Gotan Project Remix
Ooh La La, Goldfrapp
La La, Ashlee Simpson
Dirrty, Christina Aguilera
Let me Blow Ya Mind, Eve
Ticket to Ride, Beatles
American Woman, The Guess Who
Gimme All Your Lovin, ZZ Top
Heartache Tonight, Eagles
Take it Off, The Donnas
Just Dance, Lady GaGa
Ces bottes sont faites pour marcher, Eileen

5 comments:

flutterbyblue said...

Sounds fab to me! Any advice on what to do when you've lost your luster because you're down with the flu?

GonzoMelissaism said...

I love that the first song on the list is Stripper. That song has the capability to singlehandedly re-energize you and make you want to do a sexy striptease. If it can't help you get your luster back, I don't know what will.

Leah said...

Thanks for this list... I do some of those things when I feel I'm losing my luster. The spa visit with massage and scrub is tops on my list.

flo said...

what a nice post. actually,i do it sometimes. and its true..take some time for your own could bring happiness and joy :)

Jill said...

Great playlist!